Why it’s worth it even though it’s not easy: What I’ve learned about marriage so far


When my friends ask me how I’m doing I can’t help but be honest.

“Marriage has been quite the adjustment for me. But it’s wonderful.”

I feel like I have to pinch myself multiple times a day — I feel like I’m living in a dream. Being married to the love of my life and best friend has been surreal.

But wonderful.

I’ve learned a lot in the 13 days I’ve been married. The biggest takeaway: It’s not easy.

Before Cristian miraculously came back into my life I was frustrated with where my life was seemingly going, but I was content. I struggled with dating, since I felt that few guys I met were worth my time or interest. They didn’t meet my standards for who I wanted as my eternal companion, confidant and father to my children. I had been through the temple, and wondered when the rest of my life would start (endowed single LDS ladies…you know what I mean). So,  in order to be happy, I had to be comfortable with being independent. And I was.

So, adjusting to the life I always dreamed of has been a little harder than I anticipated or prepared for, which has resulted in some shocking moments for me.


But through the love and care of that sweet man I married, I’ve been quickly reminded that marriage is so worth it even when it isn’t easy.

He lets me cry and doesn’t think I’m any less strong because of it.

He makes me laugh!

He tells me I’m sexy. Even when my hair isn’t done, I’m not wearing makeup and I’m wearing pajamas I’ve had since the beginning of college.

He works hard for us.

He supports me in my dreams and makes me feel like I can do anything.

And he makes a mean grilled cheese.


I knew before we got married that marriage wasn’t going to be easy. But I didn’t plan for how hard adjusting to it might be. And that’s OK — because I married my soulmate.

And he’s wonderful.


Photos by Stephanie Jarstad Photography. Check her out on Facebook!


I’ll blog more wedding photos and details soon. Also stay tuned for posts on the tiny house we get to live in!